Saturday, October 6, 2007

How we celebrate adoption anniversaries

I was asked this question in a comment and thought I would answer it now, although I believe that every family treats the day in different ways, and I don't think there's any one 'right' way.

We look at adoption anniversaries in a way that is similar to wedding anniversaries: it is the day we became a family. So, we have tended to celebrate that a new person joined our family simply by celebrating who they are. On Song's anniversary, we usually eat out Chinese food, sometimes with just our family, other times with extended family. Because there are no Russian restaurants around, we usually let Alex choose a restaurant or place. Occasionally, he chooses his Nini's house! I don't know what we will do for Ella's first anniversary! I suppose I could whip up some cow tongue soup like we were served in Colombia. Ugh!!

We haven't done gifts, partially because I didn't like how that might seem to the bio kids, and also because I wanted the focus to be on the child and not on gifts. To that end, everyone shares something they like about the anniversary child. It doesn't need to be profound, but I think we all like to hear the things that others love about us.

So, all in all we're pretty low-key but we would never dream of NOT celebrating the days when our family became Russian/Chinese/Colombian!

4 comments:

Stepping Out of the Boat said...

Cow tongue soup!?!?! I feel sick just reading that! UGH!

I love the way you celebrate them...what great ideas! :)

Jennifer said...

Thanks Jill! We haven't found our groove with these anniversaries yet, so it's good to hear what you do. For our one and only anniversary so far I just made a Chinese meal and the older girls made Chinese decorations. We'll see what becomes our standard. I agree about the gifts though...I have one bio girl who would be a good bit jealous over that!

Charissa said...

Goodness gracious! Your family is beautiful! Thanks for sharing how you all celebrate.

John Dee Spicer said...

Like Tuesday's aren't cow tongue soup day around here! Embrace who you are Jill . . .